Jan 28, 2010

Opening like a flower

I remember sitting with my dear friend Carly at dinner this past summer. She had just ended a relationship and we were discussing her reasoning. Mid-chips and salsa gorging, she mentioned an idea Rob Bell had suggested in his book, "Sex God."

Now for some of you, I bet you're thinking,
"What kind of books are these college kids reading?"
"How inappropriate?!"
and things of that nature.

However, I assure you that this book is far from inappropriate. Bell challenges our view of relationships, sex appeal, and the intriguing correlation between human intimacy and our relationship with God.

Back to Carly's story- when I asked her why things didn't work out, she confidently said, "I wasn't opening up like a flower." Puzzled, I asked what she meant.

Her reference was from the chapter called, "Worth Dying For." I would recommend this book solely based on this chapter. Here's a little peak:

If you're dating someone, what kind of man is he? Does he demonstrate that he's the kind of man who would die for you? What is his posture toward the world? Does he serve, or is he waiting to be served? Does he believe that he's owed something, that he's been shortchanged, that he's gotten the short end of the stick, that life owes him something? Or is he out to see what he can give? Does he see himself as being here to make the world a better place? These are the big questions that you need to ask yourself...Does he have liquid agape running through his veins?...Can you tell him anything? Is he safe? Can he be trusted? Can you open up to him, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, knowing that he will protect, not exploit, that vulnerability? Are you opening like a flower? When you live in your true identity, when you find your worth and value in your creator, when you live "in Christ," in who you really are, you force him to rethink what it means to me a man


This book could not have come into my life at a better time. The last few years have truly forced me to reexamine my views on life, love, and ultimately, my relationship with Christ. Having hidden my true identity in a relationship for the first two years of college made being on my own difficult experience. I looked to everyone (every guy, I suppose) except God to help me figure out who I was outside of that relationship. After reading "Sex God" and doing some soul searching, I realized my worth and the love my Savior has for me.

Being in a relationship now, I am so thankful for the time I got to spend on my own figuring out who I am and who I am becoming. My views on love and relationships have been molded significantly and I am thrilled to say that I am able to open "like a flower" with Tim. Hooray for five months with an amazing guy!

(I know, I know- it's cheesy. But hey, it's true.)

(Please excuse my "crazy" face. I was simply excited to be visiting.)

trying to stay warm despite the "wintery mix,"
Cara Linn

1 comment:

Shelley said...

Sounds like a great book...may get if for Megan when I can!